It’s hard to believe my little sister turned 40 this year. During my recent visit to her home in Salt Lake City, I had to keep saying to myself, “She’s grown-up, she’s 40, she doesn’t need your opinion or advice anymore!” As her only big sister, that has always been my role in her life… until now.
My sister and I are quite different from each other. She is “sensitive,” a gentle soul, an artist. She has always been genteel and physically delicate, with porcelain skin and light hair. I, on the other hand, am much more boisterous, outgoing, the bull in the china shop with dark hair and olive skin. Esperanza is like fine china. Me? I’m more like Fiestaware. But we share similarities: We both are passionate about opera, great food, entertaining, Star Wars, and movies.
I remember as a kid being around my mother and her sisters when they were in their 40s, trying to imagine what Esperanza and I would be like in ours. Suddenly here we are! It happened so fast. Yet my sister and I have led very different lives, and during our 20s and 30s we had a tumultuous relationship. Now that our 40s have mellowed us, we have formed a strong bond and friendship. Maybe it’s because we know who we are as individuals and better understand each other. Or maybe it’s because we are finally mature adults!
When I look at my sister, she is forever sweet 16 with her pixie haircut, singing arias in the kitchen and baking something fabulous. She is now a pastry chef, and I’m visiting her in her very own kitchen, where she’s baking her incredible signature tarts and singing arias. Me? I’m gratefully cleaning up her kitchen… anxiously anticipating that first bite and listening to her wonderful voice.
Spend as much time as you can with your siblings and keep the communication alive and active. They are your anchor in life.
Tags: forty, forty-plus, middle aged women, over forty, sisters, women, women over 40, women over 50, women over forty