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Fat Is Not A Choice

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December 28th, 2012

Tootzypop Classics: We’re saying goodbye to 2012 and ushering in 2013 with a celebration of some of the year’s most read posts. This post originally ran on August 31, 2012. We’ll be back with new, original posts on Monday, January 7. Enjoy!

I love shopping with Mom. We enjoy teasing each other in the dressing room, bonding over the gravitational pull the earth is having on our bodies. We savor the moment when one of us says, “Yes girl! You look good in that!”

My mom and I have always enjoyed creating clothes, discussing the latest Vogue magazine, or shopping for something new or necessary. I am grateful to her for making fashion fun, because when I was a little girl I was obese and shopping meant we were relegated to Lane Bryant and the chubby section of the Sears department store. Shopping made me feel anxious and insecure, but Mom always had a good attitude and was determined to keep her chubby girl fashionable. I remember sporting a faux leather jumper or windowpane pants. I always had a few trendy items that said, “Yes I am fat, but I know what is happening in the world and I am a part of it too.”

Today (photo below), I maintain an average weight and healthy body. However, I am aware of and very sympathetic to those of us who struggle with obesity, because it affects more than one’s clothing choices — it affects choices in life. Yet being obese, in my opinion, is not a choice. It is a condition, a disease, if you will, that is not good or bad, it just is. For me, I was sick and unable to live my life fully engaged with all cylinders working properly. Today, when my mom says “Crys, you look good in that,” I reply, “And I feel good too!”

Is there a condition keeping you from living your life fully engaged with all cylinders? Without judgment or criticism take a look at your beautiful self and if you want to, begin exploring ways to treat that condition.


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  1. Lis Peery says:

    Wow! Thank you so much for your fresh, not-victim-y take on this issue and yourself. Having met you personally, I never, ever would have guessed that you had “an issue” with your weight and I am inspired beyond belief by your story.

  2. Barbara says:

    Crystal Its great to see your evolution and touching to observe that your mother’s love and support was and is a constant. As a parent I’m especially appreciative of her example.

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