Who hasn’t struggled with how they look? When even the highest paid fashion models on the planet get famous, they say that in school they felt ugly and were tortured for being too thin. (I have no doubt they were. I also think that most of them were probably told by somebody that they were gorgeous.)
“Guys don’t make passes at girls who wear glasses,” to paraphrase Dorothy Parker. I had to get glasses when I was 6 years old, which convinced me that, on top of my awkward nature with boys (I loved to read books and would rather clamber around in the woods behind our house than play with dolls), not one of them was ever going to like me. By the time I was in fifth grade, I had size eight feet and had started shaving my legs. Any hope of being a “cute girl,” which I always imagined as blonde, petite, and giggling, was long gone.
Since then, I have never, ever felt completely happy with how I look… which is kind of sad considering my age and how often I am told that I’m attractive. I figure it’s probably the lonely, bespectacled first grader inside me talking when I look in the mirror and lacerate every aspect of my appearance. Isn’t it time for her (and me) to grow up?
I found this article in The Daily News, bravely written by a woman named Shona Sibary, who has also never felt pretty. She took it upon herself to try seven steps to change her own concept of her attractiveness, and I totally related to her journey. I was inspired by her concept that our idea of our beauty is all in our minds. I’m going to start by working on my 6-year-old self.
Tags: Daily News, looks, Shona Sibary, ugly duckling
Try the seven steps to believing you’re more attractive in Shona Sibary’s article. Make an effort to let go of the past issues you might have with your appearance and move into the now. Wise, fashionable people forever have said again and again: beauty and style are internal. Feel it and you will be it!