Yes, I’m quoting Helen Reddy. I grew up with this ‘70s anthem, and in hindsight I may have taken this message too seriously. I am in my 40s, single, and I date on and off, with the occasional “friend with benefits” situation. I have a great family, I am self-sufficient, I relocated across country for an important career opportunity. I keep myself moderately fit, I laugh a lot, read a lot, spend time with friends. In my opinion, I have created a great life.
A great life, according to my 8-year-old nephew, that could be enhanced by a husband. “Why don’t you have a husband, Auntie?” he asks. I reply, “Why do you think I need a husband?” And he says, “Because you need someone to take care of you. Like my mom has my dad, and Beyoncé has Jay-Z.” I bristle for a moment and refrain from touting a feminist diatribe to an 8-year-old. Instead, I explain how well I can take care of myself, and that a woman doesn’t need a man to complete her.
And then I look at my sister-in-law and brother and I see a lioness and a lion, taking care of each other. I consider that the idea of a partner, a teammate who I can share my life with. And this idea is appealing. I think I need to work on quelling the roar and working up a few catcalls so that when the right man comes along, ya know, he’ll “put a ring on it!”
Tags: Beyonce, Helen Reddy, single ladies
Check out Helen Reddy’s famous feminist anthem and compare it to Beyoncé’s “Single Ladies,” two different vibes, both inspirational.
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